Wise Words Bring Healing

How do you make your spouse feel? Proverbs 12:18 tells us "Some people make cutting remarks, but the words of the wise bring healing." Do you make cutting, hurtful remarks that make your spouse feel inferior? Or do they bring healing and acceptance to them?
Men -- when you admire other women, be it by looking at other women, making comments about them, whistling, or whatever it is you may do.....I want you to know, all of these things make your wife feel inferior. As though she isn't good enough for you. Rather than feeling acceptance......she feels rejected and ashamed.
Women -- the same goes for us! Making 'innocent comments' about other men; the way he is built, how muscular he is, or how attractive he is......all of these things are out of bounds in a marriage!!!!
We should NEVER make our spouses feel inadequate or ugly.
Matthew 5:28 "But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust in his eye has already committed adultery with her in his heart."
Ladies, don't let the wording fool you. This verse goes for each one of us too.
Old testament law said it was wrong for a person to have sex with someone other than your spouse. (Exodus 20:14) But in Matthew 5:28, JESUS says that even the 'desire' to have sex with someone other than your spouse is mental adultery, so it is sin. If the ACT itself is wrong, so is the INTENTION!!!
Fulfillment cannot be if there is absence of complete acceptance between you and your spouse. And that acceptance begins with a single-minded focus on your mate --- just exactly as he or she is.
Blessings on every marriage!
Laura S.